Tag: Panhellenic

It’s Past Time

Hey, you! The recent high school graduate! Yes, I’m talking to you, the cute girl with this notion of joining a college sorority.

I wish I could say it was high time to get your resumes, photos and those all-important thank-you notes to the sorority alumnae you’re hoping will write you a glowing recommendation. I can’t say that because it’s past time. Adhering to a June 1st deadline would have been a much better plan.

Let’s say you had the best of intentions, but you didn’t do it. For the love of all things Greek, please get everything in before July 4. Now.

Being busy is no excuse because everyone is busy, including the lovely woman you hope will say nice things about you to her sorority sisters. So now is the time to grovel and hope the nice lady who offered to do this for you at Easter is still willing and not on vacation.

Need some help? Check out www.sororitylife.com, a website run by the National Panhellenic Conference, or for north Texas sorority-girl wannabes, try www.midcitiespanhellenic.com. Then get after it.

Tick tock, tick tock.

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Sorority Rush: Stay Calm, Mom

Sorority rush, now called “recruitment” for some silly reason, is in full swing in the south.  It’s an annual ritual difficult to explain to others who know nothing of its drama, an annual rite of fall preceding football season at most big state schools in the south.

The ordeal and its long-term repercussions for happiness and social standing can send shock waves through neighborhoods. It can cause grown women to melt into a puddle of tears. It can cause curtains to be drawn and overwrought mothers to take to their beds.

Ushering in the season is Oklahoma State University, which in fact finished its Panhellenic rush week today. As far as I can discern, the sun will rise again tomorrow.

As the mother of three daughters who have participated in this exciting, agonizing, scary, fun, emotional, confusing, thrilling, whirlwind, heart-stopping week, I want to assure the mothers of these girls going through rush that you will survive. It might not seem like it if you’re daughter calls you sobbing because the sorority she just knew was the one for her decided they weren’t going to invite her back. Or if she chooses the one you know to be the “wrong” one. Or if her roommate doesn’t deserve to be getting invited back to so many. Or if … (fill in the blank with whatever is your current state of anxiety).

I was a rush advisor for my own national sorority for several years, and I have first-hand knowledge of what goes on behind the scenes. It’s busy, and it’s competitive both for the sororities and the rushees. It’s very difficult, as a mom, to send your sweet baby off to college, and the first week she’s there have her go through something like sorority rush. For those who care about sororities, the stakes can seem very, very high.

Countless cute daughters are wearing their best dresses with their best shoes and smiling till their pony tails hurt in an effort to make the right impression. And moms have nothing left to do at this stage of the game but to wad their hankies in knots, talk endlessly on the phone to sorority alums about “what ifs” and drink jugs of wine.

When you do get to speak to your precious baby in between the rounds of parties, remember to hide your anxiety from her. She doesn’t need you dumping your fears on her; she needs you to pump her up.

Most of the rushees are happy with whatever sorority they end up pledging. As my cousin said to me today after her daughter pledged at OSU, “she’s absolutely in the right place for her.”

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Sorority Prospects Invited to Forum

Mid-Cities Alumnae Panhellenic will hold its annual sorority recruitment forum from 2 to 4 p.m. Sunday at Compass Christian Church’s Compass Center, 4201 Pool Road, Grapevine.

All area senior girls and their mothers are invited to attend “It’s All Greek,” a free informational session. Co-chairs Kathy Dorris and Stephanie House have designed the event to provide answers to those graduates considering joining a national sorority, one of the 26 belonging to the National Panhellenic Conference (npcwomen.org).

Highlights of the afternoon will include a recruitment style show with models from area universities and a question-and-answer session. Refreshments will be served.

For additional information, contact House at sshouse@verizon.net or kathy@dorrislaw.com.

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Sorority Rush, Bursting at the Seams

The anxiety is almost over for all the parents who’ve sent their sweet babies off to college, and more stressfully, to sorority rush.

Most large universities complete sorority rush–now called “recruitment” for reasons I’ll never understand–before school starts. The really cruel ones make the sororities have their bid days on the first day of school (add that to the list of things I don’t understand), so that the girls can accept their semester syllabuses while biting their fingernails.

Meanwhile the parents at home are left to wonder how their baby girl is doing, while fielding phone calls from curious friends who just might have gathered all the reccomendations needed for such a pursuit. Especially in the South, y’all, this sorority deal is a team effort, and the sorority alumnae keep score just like it was a football game.

Sorority rush seems to be gaining momentum. After being Greek took a nosedive in the late ’60s and early ’70s when the hippies were popular detractors, I see a resurgence. More and more high school girls are attending Panhellenic forums, and these pledge classes are monstrous. At the University of Arkansas this year, pledge classes numbered upward of 130. Yes, too many to know well.

And all this flurry of activity happening over less than a week is a very exciting time for a newbie on campus…unless it isn’t. Unfortunately, there is sometimes heartbreak for no good reason. The sorority rush process is far from perfect, but so are many things in life. It’s just too bad when this unfairness happens just as these girls are starting a new adventure, usually away from home.

So, college presidents and Panhellenics, I’m asking you to look at broadening the number of National Panhellenic sororities on your campuses. Obviously the sorority experience, now more than 140 years old, is seen as a valuable one. Let’s expand it so everyone who wants to be a part of one of the 26 national sororities can be a part. Let’s keep the numbers down to a manageable few so that the members can know each other and live together.

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